If someone takes the initiative to host a party, introductory event or regular meeting in a place they own or operate. We had a very good night for social nudism here in coastal Virginia because one family played host to a gathering of nudists!
In today’s tumbl I wanted to highlight how this is possible, why it is a worthwhile social activity and a few of the basic rules as they occurred to me; slightly before and during the first moments of this event. Could you do it? Would you do it? … How to do it!
Opening a personal space to new acquaintances is an act of trust!
We all know there are risks in life; all anyone need do is watch the evening news to be reminded of them. However, if we “give in” to worry and concern, if we stop trying to connect with people outside of the work environment, then I think those who would harm us have won.
Before the event: The most important thing for any guest in someone’s home to know is respect and courtesy. Be sure to communicate with the host or hosts ahead of time, describe your level of experience with nudism and ask to be invited or included in the event.
Two important things: A clothing-optional designation means nudity is not expected and guests may remain clothed if they wish (this can make getting to know “the nudists” easier for some people). A nudist designation means guests will be expected to be unclothed “uniformly” along with each other - a “No collar uniform” if I may describe it as such.
Being freshly washed, shaved and having your hair in order is also encouraged because these may be the personal things you are scored by. Nudists are not uncivilized in any sense of the term.
At the event: Upon arrival, be sure to introduce yourself again, smile, be pleasant and respectful and “go with the flow”! If as a host you decide someone is not a good fit for the group, politely take them aside and ask them to leave as discretely as possible. You can offer to keep in touch with them, to discuss any reservations you felt about them as a host, and offer to coach them on points of nudist etiquette *IF* you want; but do not feel obligated. I suggest it is unnecessary to feel obligated because learning about nudism is an equal task on both sides.
If children are present, remember you are serving as a role model for them as well. Their parent or parents have likely undertaken to explain a few things about social nudity to them, and now it is your responsibility support commonly accepted standards of behavior and reinforce those lessons.
The host decides when and how guests may set their street clothes aside and if no instructions are offered, casually getting equal with other guests is acceptable. Remember, as an experienced nudist or a new and aspiring nudist, the philosophy of “clothing makes the man” (or woman) does not apply!
Equipment required: A towel or seat cushion to sit on, and it may be useful to mark one side of the cushion with an “X” or a heart using a permanent fabric marker. This insures one side contacts the host’s furniture and the other side (the one with the X), remains in contact with your backside.
Do your best to relax, take a deep breath and keep in mind we are all created equal, have nothing to be embarrassed about and all attended a “first event” somewhere!
Bring a snack, drinks or anything you need, such as special food, which the host would be unlikely to have available.
So you want to know: “Why nudity?”
Simple, because all at once it is disarming and reassuring! It requires people to let their guard down, invites daily disguises we use to be set aside, and allows the guest to demonstrate a level of commitment to several things.
Commitments of a new nudist:
1. Trust: Some has been offered to you and in kind you are returning this trust (or faith and confidence in the host). The place they have should be a safe, secure, warm (literally) and friendly environment.
2. Understanding: Social nudism usually requires the participant to understand a bit about clothing-optional recreation, how nudity can be permitted in a non-sexual context, and that a unvoiced mutual agreement exists to show respect for other nudists and receive it as a nudist.
3. Enjoy how it feels because it feels really great! Of course, this idea probably already crossed the mind of the first time social nudist because they read positive things about it, experienced it at home after showering and consciously deciding to remain undressed for awhile, or by sleeping without clothes at night.
4. Embracing humanity: Social nudity allows each person to fully embrace what they are as a human being, to experience the full range of sensations a body is capable of feeling (all of the body, all of the sensations) and it conveys the dual messages of: ’I want to be completely comfortable, at ease and enjoy my body’ along with ‘I hope you will be completely comfortable, at ease and enjoy your body’.
(it quite literally embodies the yin-yang of our existence in the flesh)
5. Amazing companionship: Bring a friend! It is one way to feel at the same time “safer” and more “daring” if you do a clothing-optional event with someone you know. It might surprise and amaze them to learn something new about you while also encouraging them to “push their personal boundaries” a bit further too!
The eight of us had an awesome couple of hours with people of many ages and both sexes, and I am happy to report nobody felt uncomfortable at whatever level of nudity they chose.
On this occasion, we did not play indoor games such as poker, Pictionary or naked Twister, but everyone enjoyed the shared snacks and drinks and I think we will be doing another event in the future.
Anyone can host a clothing-optional event in a safe space with others, I would encourage people to think about it. It is possible to be an ambassador for this gentle way of living and encourage others to experience it also; even if you start off as being the only one to set their clothing aside!
If this should happen, it is in a way extending a “naked Olive branch of peace” to others; and there really can be no greater harmony between us. Getting someone else to say, ‘Oh my gosh, you’re naked!’ and being totally unphased by that comment is kind of fun too!